Add with() method to apply SecurityConfigurerAdapter

[marcusdacoregio]

This method is intended to replace .apply() because it will not be possible to chain configurations when .and() gets removed.
This will allow us to deprecate .apply() in favor of .with()

The idea behind adding the Customizer as a second argument is to allow users to do:

http.with(new MyCustomDsl(), (dsl) -> dsl.disable())

First, we add the SecurityBuilder into the MyCustomDsl and then we can apply configurations that depend on the builder, like .disable(). This test makes sure that works.

Pretty much close to what we had before with .apply():

http.apply(new MyCustomDsl()).disable()
  .and()
// ...

Closes gh-13204