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+title: "23 Things I've Learned In 23 Years"
+date: '2023-10-10'
+description: 'w'
+---
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+1. Banding together over shared distaste for something is a dangerous path. Be
+   open minded
+2. 10% of your time should be spent on something productive, e.g., art, writing
+3. Sometimes, people are only in your life for a certain amount of time just for
+   really important things. And that’s beautiful
+4. If you laugh, you cry and think, that’s a full day. That’s a heck of a day.
+   You do that seven days a week, and you’ll have something special.
+5. Either fully commit or not at all.
+6. Empathy is humanity’s greatest invention.
+7. Being a good listener means providing evaluative and descriptive feedback
+   while avoiding your biases. Ask open and honest questions while avoiding
+   distraction, and be curious.
+8. Awareness is true intelligence, but awareness does not equate to action. Hold
+   yourself accountable.
+9. Judgment leads to you becoming blind to your own shortcomings.
+10. Learn to identify how you’re feeling and how to process emotions. But
+    self-sufficiency leads to loneliness—talking through it with a good friend
+    is ideal; plus, they will give feedback or take opinions from sides you
+    couldn’t think of yourself
+11. You do not “own” every thought that arises in your head. Many can be let go.
+    Some just need to shout before exiting. Some need more work.
+12. Dishwashers save water.
+13. Gratitude is the antidote to dissatisfaction.
+14. Learn to feel when you’re in a spiral or have clarity. Achieve clarity
+    through brain dumps or meditation.
+15. Practice self-love—others see us how we see ourselves.
+16. Studies show that the mere presence of a phone on the table increases our
+    susceptibility to distraction.
+17. There is no such thing as a singular purpose or meaning. We can find meaning
+    in multiple things in life, even leisure! But some may cause us to feel like
+    we aren’t spending our time well, like TV.
+18. A logical view of life is insane. Mathematics is the only facet of life
+    where anything can be 100% perfect. Humans are governed by emotions.
+19. A relationship is something you add to your life, not adapt to fit it in or
+    be dependent on.
+20. Keep up with friends. Experience life together—once a year big trip sorta
+    thing
+21. Don’t be an old person afraid of everything. SF is not a warzone.
+22. Comparison is the Thief of Joy - Theodore Roosevelt
+23. Living in a highly individualistic society, it is crucial to be aware of
+    collectivism present in other cultures. Find your balance.