proxy: Adjust retry wake compute

[khanova]

Problem

Right now we always do retry wake compute.

Summary of changes

Create a list of errors when we could avoid needless retries.

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• If it is a core feature, I have added thorough tests.
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[conradludgate]

Seems correct. Just to confirm, this will exit early for any non recoverable connection errors?

[github-actions]

2844 tests run: 2721 passed, 2 failed, 121 skipped (full report)

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Failures on Postgres 15

• test_sharding_split_failures[failure20]: debug
• test_sharding_split_failures[failure3]: debug

# Run all failed tests locally:
scripts/pytest -vv -n $(nproc) -k "test_sharding_split_failures[debug-pg15-failure20] or test_sharding_split_failures[debug-pg15-failure3]"

Flaky tests (1)

Postgres 16

• test_vm_bit_clear_on_heap_lock: debug

Code coverage* (full report)

• functions: 28.2% (6552 of 23265 functions)
• lines: 46.8% (46283 of 98843 lines)

* collected from Rust tests only

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