Updating gradient clipping to be torch 2.0 compatible

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What does this PR do?

In torch 2.0 they change the error message that is thrown for gradient clipping. This PR adds code to catch this new error message.

ran locally with torch 2.0:
https://wandb.ai/mosaic-ml/examples_fork-examples_llm/runs/prr9w4gb?workspace=user-bcui

link to PyTorch 2.0 new error message:
https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/blob/master/torch/distributed/fsdp/fully_sharded_data_parallel.py#L1000

What issue(s) does this change relate to?

CO-1955

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